My Wife Got Violent and the Police Got Involved, Then We Partnered With MCM and Never Looked Back.
Stan's wife Ann has dementia. After a crisis that brought in the police and a hospital, MCM took the case and has kept Ann home since 2019.
- Dementia
- Behavioral / Complex Case
- Post-Crisis Care
- 24-Hour Care
- Long-Term Care
How their care changed
Before MCM
- Ann's dementia escalated into a crisis the family could not manage alone.
“Ann was having problems... Montgomery County Police have a special unit trained to deal with patients with mental problems. She got violent one time, we had to call the police, they sent her to the hospital. Aging network services recommended MCM at that time.”
With MCM
- MCM took the case, kept Ann home, and showed up at every emergency since.
“Normally the team leaves at eight o'clock, but they talked to us, they were going to admit her overnight so I could go home, and the team was waiting for me. She drove me home and came back the next day. It's just incredible.”
Why they needed MCM
The crisis was more than the family could handle alone.
Ann's dementia turned into a behavioral emergency. "She got violent one time, we had to call the police, they sent her to the hospital." It was Aging Network Services that pointed them to MCM at that moment. Their son Daniel remembers it the same way: "When my mom started getting violent — that was when. We were so unprepared."
They needed a team that wouldn't leave at the hard part.
When Stan had to call 911 and Ann was unresponsive, MCM didn't clock out. "They came, took her to Holy Cross... the team was waiting for me. She drove me home and came back the next day."
They wanted Ann home, not in a short-staffed facility.
Steve and Andrea were direct with Stan. "Absolutely she can stay at home for the rest of her life. No question... they're so short-staffed. We're being hired to go in them privately anyway. So if you're going to pay twice for the care, you might as well stay at home and get the one-on-one care."
They got caregivers who stayed.
The first one set the bar. "The first one was Rowena. She was a unicorn." Over the years a small, steady team stayed with them, Rowena then Margaret, supported by son Dan on overnight care and a nurse practitioner visiting monthly.
A son who came home to help.
Daniel Marmorstein moved back from Los Angeles thirteen years ago to work at NIH, right as his mother began to decline. "We're a very small family, so there was no support group, no support network." What changed everything was not being alone. "For my father and me, the most impactful thing was having people to call on — we weren't alone." His advice to other families is simple: "Don't wait. Reach out early... Make the plans early, while the person who needs the help can still figure out what they want. Just don't wait."
Also hear from Dan, Ann's son
Don't Wait Till It's a Disaster
“If we need you, you're there. It doesn't matter when it is — weekend, late at night. You're always there. I don't know how to say how valuable that is.”
Daniel Marmorstein · son · the Marmorstein family, client since 2019
Caring for a loved one whose dementia has become more than you can manage alone?
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